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4.30am Miracle morning

I’ve had one of the best mornings ever just today!

I had an early start at 4.30am (a full hour before my alarm goes off), knocked out my basic morning routine, some work and then my fitness routine. It was only 7am then. I rarely have such focus and clarity – I usually spend an extra hour getting distracted on social media and only get my exercise done by 8 or 9am)

Another surprising observation was, my mind was particularly calm and quiet during my exercise. I get the highest flow of ideas when I’m working out. The thoughts that come to me are usually things that occupy my mind most heavily & dictate my emotional state. I may be conscious of some of those thoughts, but the most interesting ones are the subconscious thoughts that rise up.

During physical exercise is when I’m probably closest to being hyper-alert. Not just my mind, but my body too, feels more sensitive to its surroundings – from internal muscle movements, to moving insects in the garden (if that is where I choose to work out).

I was very surprised by the serenity and peace in my mind. The only way I can describe it, is empty. As much as I looked, there were no thoughts. This is very unusual for my buzzing brain. It felt surprisingly good. I relaxed into it, I smiled and enjoyed the emptiness.

I am no scientist, or detective but here’s my best explanation of the higher level of focus and clarity I experienced this morning – I spent 2.5 hours relaxing at the beach yesterday.

Almost like having my own private beach on a weekday afternoon

I love the water. I love being in the ocean. I love waves (when they are not too rough) and the swooshing sound they make. The conditions were perfect yesterday.

I listened to an audio book of ‘the miracle morning’ while I basked in the sun. (Perhaps the audio book had something to do with my ‘miracle morning’ too.)

For those 2 hours, the rest of the world faded away and my physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual batteries were fully recharged.

It feels good. It feels so good to live life with your batteries recharged. It feels even better to have focus, clarity and move with efficiency.

Here’s what I know about relaxation, self love and self care:

  1. Set the intention to totally break away from your daily life. Imagine it was your last day on earth. What would you want to do, how would you want to feel?
  2. Understand yourself – what activity relaxes you the most? A game of soccer? A nourishing brunch? Some music and a nap? Indoors or outdoors? I did my own trial and error to find which activities suited me.
  3. Don’t be afraid to go solo. I love hanging out with my friends. But sometimes, self care is watching a geeky movie all by myself because I may want to pause and replay certain bits.
  4. Time out feels well deserved when you’ve earned it. Give yourself time out as a reward when you’ve achieved your planned tasks/goals for the day. It gives you permission to walk away from your work without guilt and to fully immerse in FUN knowing that you’ve kept your promise to yourself.

This serendipitous morning has given me so many insights on applying intentional relaxation and self care in one’s life. I am so grateful and I hope it has given you some good ideas to implement in your own so you can create your own miracle mornings too.

To greater clarity and focus for all the on purpose readers out there!

p.s review of ‘The Miracle Morning’ by Hal Elrod coming up. For those yet to find your ideal morning routine, this book is a game changer. Stay tuned!

How to deal with haters & critics..??

I love haters, negative comments, critics… etc. They are a great source of entertainment for me these days.

Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.I completely understand the anxiety, fear, anger and frustration of receiving negative comments or reviews. I’ve totally been there when my confidence was still very vulnerable to these trolls. It does take all your esteem to the dumps, and you question everything about yourself.

It’s crazy to think someone so insignificant in our lives – some random person in the public who probably really didn’t think about their comment/review for more than half a second – can completely ruin our mental state with a few words. I’ve been there.

And then there’s the process of rebuilding your esteem – with positive self talk, peer support, positive content and other reinforcements. It’s a real roller coaster to be on.

I am glad I am largely over that hump and would love to see more people getting over theirs too.

 

Here’s the big realisation for me. If you don’t have haters, you ain’t nobody. The more authority you desire as an individual, the more lives you want to touch & impact, the more value you want to provide as an individual or business, the bigger waves you want to create in your community, the more negative feedback you can expect.

You’re probably doing something right if you have critics and probably not enough if you don’t have your fair share of trolls/critics. #sorrynotsorry for being blunt.

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Not everyone is going to like you, not everyone is going to agree with you. That’s completely ok. Remember the bulk of people who show up for you and love you for it everyday! That’s the reason why you do what you do – for the true fans who show up intentionally for you. And if you don’t think you have true fans, look harder. They might be people in the wings you’ve taken for granted.

Backing up slightly.. this post was inspired by a fellow business owner who was stressing about a bad review about her bakery. The customer basically rated her bakery 2/5 stating that the taste did not suit him. Fair enough, I say. It’s not truely a bad review. And there is probably nothing the business owner could do… except give him a tongue transplant?

 

Negative feedback that are neutral like the one mentioned above are like unicorns. There are plenty of negative comments that are emotionally charged, abusive, vulgar and hurtful in the pandora’s box that is the internet. Some of them are made by professional critics and trolls who do this all day… because they have nothing else going on in their lives.

Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. (1)So how much time and emotion do you want to spend on these bl**dy slugs? I made my conclusion one day at breaking point that it’s going to be ZERO. I’m too busy being awesome, having fun and building my empire. For some of us, that decision holds up easily like a concrete wall and for some of us it’s a muscle that we gradually build up.

Regardless, the more energy you give to trolls and critics,

  1. the more they grow and fight back.
  2. The less time and energy you have to live your life

 

The worst thing about critics and trolls is actually NOT that they are damaging your reputation/work but that they can suck you completely dry of inspiration, energy and take you off focus. Letting them become a real distraction in your life can ruin your gifts and this reason alone is why I take a stand on learning how to completely ignore critics, especially those that may not be a good fit for your personality / perspective / business at all.

I’m not referring to the constructive criticism or honest personal experience type of comments and reviews from customers or peers. Some bad reviews can provide great insight to improve what we do, and it’s great to take those on board.

 

Taking a wide perspective, remember that every negative comment is just one person’s personal opinion. Yes, us business owners get sensitive about it because that’s not what the customer thinks. But learning to love and celebrate my haters & critics as a sign that I’m doing something right and making waves in this world has allowed me to channel my energy towards my craft and skill. Ultimately, it’s only through getting better at what we do that will being the avalanche of good reviews to drown out the bad.

 

 

 

 

The importance of finding Robin Hood – your sidekicks in life!

It was 8.30am at a Boost Juice stall that this idea first sneaked into my mind. I was up since 4am getting some business activities done after returning from my travels in Melbourne the night before.

My body was starved and dehydrated and the first thing that came to my mind was a chunky protein shake at Boost. So I went hunting when the necessary work was done and had the most refreshing shake that gave me the boost (pun intended) my body craved. But I also stumbled on a book on display by Janine Allis, the founder of Boost Juice.

I recognised Janine from Shark Tank and later come to learn of her business endeavours and success. I glanced through the book and found this.

Yeah, I totally felt that slurping up my morning juice. It’s kind of silly to think that a simple juice can make you feel so pumped. But all I can say is that biological need coupled with good branding can pack a punch to someone’s energy levels.

 

The other thing I noticed was a tip to success that she shared – to marry well or to find the right life partner to support you.

And I agree to a great degree that the right partner can bring out your hidden potential and assist in one’s success.. IMMENSELY. Though I prefer to think of it more broadly as having the right individuals around you to support you. Your better half is not the deal breaker in your success. Even if he/she is not the rock in your world, the power is still largely in your hands to believe in yourself and make things happen.

 

Personally, it’s about finding the robin hoods in your life – your true fans & supporters – whether they are direct family, friends, business partners or mentors. They could also be different people for different areas of your life. There are robin hoods for your relationships, your work/business activity, your finances… etc. and your ability to seek these people out, recognise them, build and protect those relationships can absolutely boost your results, fun and fulfilment in life.

I learnt from a business mentor that success is not created in a bubble and I resonated with that immediately. Being an independent character, it felt challenging to embrace that idea right away. But I knew, deep down, that it was the people by my side that gave me little nudges, or said yes even in the smallest ways, that allowed me to keep the faith & belief when the going got tough. Even when someone is not totally on board with your goals, ideas and vision, any expression of support counts to your morale (from my personal experience at least).

 

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The right sidekicks and support mentors will add to your spice of life

Whether you’re shooting for big goals or simply trying to navigate through life, seek out and identify the robin hoods in your life. They could be someone you know, or be random strangers that become acquaintances. I’ve had such serendipitous experiences meeting amazing people and mentors just just by showing up and being totally open to what is available out there.

 

The Robin Hoods in your life are not just there to support you, they can also point you in the right direction or provide great ideas to solve your problems. If you go with that mindset when finding the sidekicks in your life, you can’t go wrong. I like to think of this circle of people as my dream team. I want to be a part of their dream team as much as I want them to be part of mine. It’s a 2 way street that sets the stage for amazing synergy, co-creation, creativity and magic.

Every hero has a side kick. Their powers are understated but they can be critical for you to reach new heights in life. Keep them close, cherish them, support them and they will do the same for you too.